Friday, 22 March 2019

How We Do Date Night & What I Wore


 

We love date night.  We make it a priority.  We plan for it.  We are intentional with it. 

 

What do we do for date night?

 

Recently we celebrated Logan's birthday with a date night out with several of our couple friends.  We got all dressed up and headed out for a child-free evening. Generally we enjoy going to a nice restaurant, ordering a bottle of wine and taking our time.  We usually end up coming home, relaxing and watching a show together .  What I love about a nice  dinner out is a) I don't have to cook, b) I don't have to clean and c) is that we can talk without any interruptions or input from the children.  We get to catch up with one another, like really catch up and not pass information and schedules back and forth. 

 

 

Active Date Nights!

Dinner is one type of date night and one that is our go-to in the winter months.  In Spring/Summer we prefer to have an outdoor activity followed by either an evening at home, cooking together, or dinner out.  We absolutely love being active and making memories together, check anniversary date night here.  Some of our favorite actives:

Tennis

River walk/run/bike ride

Paddle boarding/canoeing

Board games with friends

Picnic

Hiking on new trails

Golf (not really cheap but fun)

X-country skiing/snowshoeing

Skating at an outdoor rink

Pinterest board full of great ideas here.

Sometimes dates are as simple as sharing a cup of coffee and some chocolate together.

Just us and the pups.  Reconnecting with each other and nature.

Anniversary date 2018.  15 years of marriage. 
 

 

What we DON'T do on date night?

We don’t go to the movies.  We used to but now it’s a no-no for us. 

Why? 

Because we don’t talk.  We don’t have to be engaged with each other.  We watch enough TV at home the return on a movie date night isn't high enough.  If movies are your thing, by all means, it's just not something we tend to do.   

 

How often do we have date night?

I think this is, and should be, different for everyone.  What works for you, doesn’t necessarily work for everyone.  Also, this has changed with the seasons of our lives

Our goal is once a month but in reality it’s more like every 6 weeks.  That being said the last couple of years as our children have gotten older and can stay home on their own, we carve out time to go for an evening walk, jog, or go to do errands, just the two of us almost every week.  Currently we don’t have a specific evening that we do it due to our ever changing schedules but we tend to aim for Wednesday evenings. 

The monthly “date” night is much more planned.  We make a plan with friends or by ourselves a couple of weeks in advance.  We connect with my parents, or a babysitter (which we don’t need anymore).  We are fortunate to have my parents nearby and they love having the kids which often means a sleepover for the kids!!!   It’s glorious.  If you don't have this as an options here are a couple of suggestions

a)  Kid Swap.  Kid swap with friends monthly so that you can have a date night.  I think friends are some of the least utilized people in our lives.  We don’t want to impose or inconvenience others, but the truth is they are  likely feeling similar.  They would probably love some sort of arrangement but just like you, but don’t know how to ask. 

b)  Budget.  Babysitters are costly.  I get that.  I would make it a priority and put it into your monthly budget plans. 

c)  If you can't make a monthly date night work, see if you can sneak in an hour weekly into your schedules for a walk by yourselves, and a bigger chunk of time for an evening out quarterly instead of monthly. 

 


Why date night?

Here is my take on this.  In the hustle and bustle of life, the first things two things to go are

a) me and

b) my relationship with my partner. 

It’s easy to get disconnected.  It’s easy to get complacent.  It’s easy to get annoyed because life is hard to juggle.  When I was in my teens and just after high school, many of my friends parents ended up getting  a divorce.  I am not opposed to divorce, in fact I strongly urge people to find happiness and joy that they need to live their best life overall.  That being said, I also feel that it’s easy to let life take over and then find yourself with a person that you care deeply about but necessarily know anymore.  Example, when Logan and I went to London/Paris years ago now, we realized that we hadn’t spent 12 days, heck 3 days, on our own without the kids.  Once we exhausted the topics of our kids, work, and day to day life, we were struggling to figure out how to be just the two of us again.  On this trip not only did we explore new places but we relearned how to make our own fun, reminded each other of why we fit so well together and what drew us to each other in the first place.  The memories we created are now reminisced by us time and time again and we know that we need to carve out some extended alone time.  We can't afford to always go to Paris/London but we can do a weekend getaway to the lake or last year we took a 3 day road trip just the two of us, read here. 

Remembering who we were before getting the best and most important  job in the world, parenting. 

 

 

What I Wore to Date Night Recently?


It's finally warming up here but two weeks ago, it was COLD, COLD, COLD.  I love this monochromatic  outfit, black turtleneck, houndstooth skirt, black tights and booties.  I showcased this exact outfit last week as one of my work outfits, but I actually put it together for this evening and loved it so much that I wanted to replicate it for the office as well.  The best thing about this outfit is the wool coat.  It's finally spring here but two weeks ago we were still in the depths of one of the coldest winters and this 70% wool coat, linked below, is worth the price tag at Aritizia and I see it as an investment piece.  If you are looking for a coat that's classy, chic, and extremely warm, go buy it now while it's on sale, you won't regret it.

 

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Houndsthooth Skirt (similar, Shien)

Black Turtleneck (similar, Shopbop)

Aritzia Wool Coat (sale alert!)

Black booties (similar; Hudson Bay



 

Now tell me how you stay connected with your significant other? 

 What are your favorite date night ideas? 

Friday, 8 March 2019

Five Work Outfits and Flatlays

Argh.  Let's give this another try.  I wrote it late last night and low and behold it disappeared on me.  Yep, gone, gone, gone.  Oh well.  


As a working mom I use my weekends to rest, recharge, spend time with my family and friends, meal prep, grocery shop, do laundry, clean the house, catch up on some reading,etc.  Okay, I am exhausted just listing it all. LOL!Anyway, in order to make the work week flow, these are the things that I strive to accomplish on the weekends, or as best as I can.  Another thing that I do is pick out my outfits for the week.  I check my calendar for events such as school visits, book clubs, professional learning development events that I might be hosting, meetings, or desk work.  I also consider the forecast and then plan my five outfits accordingly.  The reason I do this is:

 

  1.  I am not a good decision maker under pressure.  Since I often do my workouts in the morning, the rest of my routine (shower, hair, make-up, breakfast) is rushed.  I get overwhelmed by choices in my closet and it throws my day off.

  2. I like to know that I am utilizing the clothes, shoes, and accessories that I keep in my closet.  Planning my outfit tends to show me what I am reaching for and what needs to maybe find a new home if I am never in the mood to wear it.  It also allows me to get creative with my outfits.  

 

Generally this process takes me 10 -15 minutes on a Sunday.  Once my outfits are picked out I hang them in my closet, usually on one hanger, in the order of days M-F.  Usually I don't make flat lays but I did for last week just to show you how the outfits come to life.  Some of the items are old favorites but I linked up some great subtitutions, or the real deal when it was still available.



Day 1- Black pants (these are worth every penny), bold sweater, riding boots, rose gold hoops and simple "love" necklace.


Day 2- Poncho, fuax leather pants, OTKB and H & B necklace.



Day 3- Black tights, black turtleneck, houndstooth skirt, black suede boots, H & B necklace & sparkle ball earring. 

 


Day 4- Fuzzy sweater, plaid pantsburgundy pumps, H & B gold necklace & bracelet.


Day 5-Sweater dress, OTK boots, leggings, long gold necklace and gold stud earrings.

And that my friends is a wrap.  Follow me along in IG to see what I am wearing next week! 

Friday, 1 March 2019

Currently: February Edition

Family

We went to Mexico and had the best time.  We desperately needed to get transported out of the freezing cold (between -45 and -58 F for two weeks).  My mom and dad joined us and we traveled really well as a group.  I'll be doing a full  highlights blog post of the trip but for now I'll just say that we relaxed by the pool, enjoyed the evening shows, and danced into the night to live music.  We opted out of doing any excursions and just enjoyed doing nothing as a family.  It was the prefect way to spend seven glorious days in paradise.





Some wave action and fun.
 

This is how we attempt to do a jumping on the beach photo in our family.  LOL!!!!


I already miss this view.


 

Reading

While on holidays, I read Sisters Like Us by Susan Mallery.  It was the prefect beach read that moved along quickly, the characters were funny, real and dynamic.  It's NOT a lifechanging or high literature  kind of book, but it was perfect for the beach.  I am also making my way through A House In The Sky by Amanda Lindhout & Sara Corbett.  I am not really sure what I think of it so far.  It's not a book that I can't wait to pick up again, but it's one that I feel I need to make my way through slowly.  I'll update you on my thoughts once I've finished it.

 

Cooking

When it's cold and you contract a bug, all you want is soup.   When I was growing up, whenever I was sick my grandma made us chicken noodle soup.  Now as an adult, what do I make when we are all feeling a little worn out, chicken noodle soup!   I love this Sicilian Chicken Noodle Soup recipe.  It's a hearty soup, packed full of fresh veggies and it makes so much which I freeze into smaller glass jars for lunches.

 

Listening

Everything by Hasley.  Several years ago I became acquainted with the song Closer which was done in collaboration with the Chainsmokers.  It's still one of my favorites and now I can't get enough of  the song Eastside by Benny Blanco, Khalid & Halsey. 


 

 Watching

The Bachelor.  It's my total guilty pleasure and my hubby is so sweet to watch it with me on Monday nights.  Have I mentioned how much I love that man.  I actually don't who I am 100% rooting for this year, but I like Hanna G (no drama), Caelynn and Tayshia. 

 

Celebrating

We celebrated both Logan's 37th birthday in Mexico and our nephew Coopers 3rd birthday this month!  Our family birthday busy season is October - February, and then there is only a few left from now until fall, including my aunt, grandma, niece and me.





That's a wrap for February 2019.  I always find March to be the hardest month for me.  The winter continues to drag on here and the spring is nowhere near in sight for us, thus March drags.  I am hoping the sunny vacation will help me stay positive through March this year and that the extreme cold warnings will at least be behind us and we can get outdoors to do a little cross country skiing, sledding or snowboarding.   Plus, I am excited to receive my next FabFitFun box, spring addition looks sooooooooooo good.  Use code to get $10 off of your first box. 


Friday, 22 February 2019

Layering and Creating a New Outfit

 

 

I am back from vacation and it was THE BEST!!!  We left and the weather was so crummy that it was hard to find any positives and there was no break in sight  The trip came at a perfect time and I cant wait to share it all with you.  Until then, I wanted to show off this cute layered outfit that has been on repeat all winter long.  The pictures aren't the greatest, sorry, as I find it's difficult to take  them indoors because,


      A) it's our home and there is kids stuff everywhere

      B) it's so dark by the time we arrive at home that it's difficult to get good lighting


What do you do about shooting pictures inside? 

 

Anyway, I love reusing favorite pieces from my closet to create new outfits, all of these pieces are at least a year or two old 🙂 .  I am really trying not to buy new stuff this month or next because honestly, I am just really noticing how many pieces I have in my closet that haven't been touched so far this year.  I am really going to have to Maria Kondo my fall/winter wardrobe before I store it away for next year.  Moving on,  this sweater vest is a perfect piece to layer over a simple long sleeved shirt and a pair of leggings (because it covers the butt) or leather pants as I've done here.  It doubles up as a tunic but totally different.  I love how the ruffle of my basic stripped top really stands out with the vest over top and adds fun and dimension to a very simple outfit.  Also, the OTKB give me a longer, sleeker look, which also make me feel slimmer because it elongates me :)   The outfit is totally simple and can work for both an office and drinks after dinner without doing any touchups.  Note my H & B necklace is always on repeat because it goes with everything so even though it  was a pricey investment it's one that I pair with my outfits at least once a week, making it well used and so loved. 

 

Today is my last day of holidays and I am looking forward to celebrating with friends and family my husbands 37th birthday that happened while we were in Mexico.  What are your weekend plans?



Sunday, 10 February 2019

Valentine's Day Looks

 
Oops.  My regular Friday post didn't go up yesterday so here it is today.  Valentine's day is just around the corner and I've been inspired to pull out some of my old favorites to play and wear to work.  The first and obvious color that comes to mind is RED, so I've styled two different looks with that inspiration.  


1.  Velvet Red:   It's been so cold here so this cozy red velvet sweater was perfect for a work outfit with black pants.  Casual, cozy and looks on trend.  I had so many complements, because the velvet throws off so much shimmer and shine.    The second outfit is what I might wear for a Valentine's day dinner.  


 


2.  Red Dress:  This dress is probably the second oldest piece of clothing in my closet.  I purchased it early into my career and just love it.  It's my POWER house dress.  BOSS babe dress.  I reach for this dress whenever I need a little confidence boost.  Though I don't wear it much anymore, it brings back memories and somehow in Marie Kondos words it actually "sparks joy" for me.  Anyway, a few years ago I styled it here with a blazer and cardigan.

 






3.  What to Wear?  This year we will be in Mexico for Valentine's Day so help me decide what to wear to dinner that evening,  pink romper, or midi-pleated skirt?  (sorry the indoor picturs is not ideal, but it's way too cold to get outside.) 

Tell me in the comments below which one you would choose?


 
 

Tuesday, 5 February 2019

January Edition: Sentence - A -Day

1st -  Happy New Year!  Read all about my goals for 2019 here

Best crew to ring in the New Year with!!!!

 


2nd Lazy morning. Just chilling with a cup of coffee and a book. 


3rd  The girls and I ventured to an outdoor skating rink where I had a fall and can't really walk on my legs.  Hmmm.

4th  My family went snowboarding/skiing without me due to my knee being sore from yesterdays fall.  I took the opportunity to have a quite day just for me.  I worked on updating my resume, spent time with a friend, and took down Christmas decorations.

5th  Halie wasn't feeling well and we thought for sure that she finally got the  stomach flu that plagued our whole family, immediate and extended, but nothing.

6th Shopping with Halie.  This is a rarity and I felt so happy that she just wanted it to be just her and I.  What a wonderful way to end the winter break.

7th  Started and ended the day off with my BFF.  Spin in the early morning and a visit & aglass of wine to end the day.

8th Work session with some passionate and intelligent colleagues.  We are working on writing another syllabus outline for an assessment class at the university.

9th PAUSE.  Today my word came to me and I decided to put work on pause and even though it was cold, I went for a river walk at lunch.  



10th  Started the day off by listening to  my little girl read to me before work.
With activities in the evening I knew this just wasn't going to happen and I've been making a conscious effort to sit with her everyday to work on fluency, defining new words. and decoding difficult words.

12th  At work we engaged in a brain building activity.   The purpose was for us gain a better understanding of  how the brain develops over the first few years of life and the impact those years have on the ability to cognitively develop  and cope with stressors in life.


 13th  Cross country skiing and a walk through the zoo to celebrate the weekend. 



 14th  Nieces and nephews.  We spent the day with our littlest family members.



15th Book club day.  I finished my first book of 2019, The Reliable Wife by Robert Goolrick.  Quick, suspenseful and slightly dark.  I liked it.

16th The days are becoming a blur of early mornings long days and passing out from exhaustion.  Lol.

17th I've had a busy few weeks and it all became a bit overwhelming tonight.    I PAUSED to make time for a run and the 30 minutes on the treadmill was all I needed to become refocused.

18th Party #1 for Halie.  9 tween girls.  Make your own pizza.  Lazer tag.  Sleepover.  Success.


19th It's my  dads birthday!  My dad and Halie have been sharing their family birthday parties for the past 12 years. 


20th Halie and I did yoga together and Oreo wanted to join in.  

Dog yoga.

21st  Today was the first day in 2 weeks that was just a normal workday.  I worked a normal 8 hour day and left my computer at work.  Yipee!!!

22nd. Played in a Kindergarten classroom!

23rd. Can't remember 😊

24th Visited with my grandma.

25th Celebrated Halie's real birthday with a family dinner.  She turned 12 today and this year I used the words Growth & Pride to describe her year.  Read here.


26th Freezing cold here again.  Off we go to the trampoline park.  I practiced my lesson of the week for my camera course by trying to take some action shots.  Very difficult in such low lighting.  Here are two of Halie doing handsprings in action. 

Mid-air.


27th BFFs Taylor Swift birthday party!!! (fog machine, karaoke, shirt making)

 

28th I finally had an opportunity to get together with my running friends and catch up.  One of my goals was to see friends more and this month I've done that four different times by hosting family or friends at my house for casual get togethers.So good for the soul.

29th  One Eyed Jacks  and Box Cars Literacy PD.  This was so much fun and I learned tons of low prep, high impact word games to play with my students!


30th  Tonight I learned some great math games from One Eyed Jacks and Box Cars!  I am so excited to try them all with my own kids.


31st Need I say more.



What were some of your January highlights? 

 

 

Please join us for your own addition of Sentence-a-Day, the first Tuesday of every month.  :)

 


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